Yay you started a new thread...expect major hijacking from me because I don't feel like starting my own.
My feeling is that you should do your best to try to accept the evey 3 day routine. I can relate to what you want ( more passion, novelty, enthusiasm, innuendo and yes...frequency), but I think it will be helpful if you can hold off from pursuing those ideals for while. I have been down this exact same road the last few months, and I made the decision to accept what H offers ( coincidentally also a 2x/week thing) because I felt I was projecting an air of disappointment which only added pressure to the picture. I began to focus on the positive...the commitment he is showing me to meet my needs.
As an aside, I do remember that when we were in MC the therapist felt that it was more important to improve the overall sexual tone in the house, including adding teasing and tension, to build up to the ML. His idea was to build up the excitement to make the encounters that much more fulfilling, and not to focus so much on the exact frequency. We have been playing/flirting with each other some more...we are both still so awkward with one another, but it's getting easier. It's amazing how much ground we have lost from the very early days.
Now that I have been backing off from H and being appreciative, lately we having some more intimate conversation where he has come forward more openly. He has been able to express ( and this is major for him) some of the factors related to his LD. I can go through this in another post , but one thing he mentioned made me think of your sitch: He said that thinking of me as his wife, and all the pressures that go along with that, makes him forget sometimes that underneath I am a person, an individual with needs and desires. he just sees WIFE and backs off.
