Spitfire (I love that name) Thank you so much for checking in on me. It means so much to know that we are not in this alone. There seems to be an incredible amount of infidelity these days, or maybe I just notice it more. I have been doing ok. I still have good days and bad. One day I want to try to reconcile with H and the next I want nothing to do with him. I keep thinking one feeling will begin to dominate and therein will be my answer. You are so correct that our paths are similar. It is frightening. The more I read about men's mid live crisis' the more I believe that is exactly what my H is going through. I am not willing to wait too long on him to figure out what he wants. I have no idea what is going on between him and OW. I have read that when one partner in an affair becomes available that the affair often dies. The secercy and safty keep it together. I am quite sure that OW is pulling my H and encouraging him to end our R. I can tell by his moods now that I have witnessed them so long. I am waiting for him to file just to see if he will and to spite OW. I figure the longer it drags the more impatient she will get. I do know, however, that he is giving her $ each month. A certain amount disappears toward the end of the month. That may keep OW hanging on longer than otherwise. I know exactly what you mean about always having worn your feelings on your sleeve. I am that way too and it has not worked for me either. I am trying to prefect the dbing techniques and am doing a bit better. H usually calls just about every day. H, daughter and I met our son in Athens Friday night for his birthday. H and I stayed in different hotels and then met at the UGA football game. H has been friendly but distant. Who knows what goes on in thier heads.
