Hi, I hope you don't mind me joining in. My h. has not been in what you'd call a long-term affair (only been about 6 mo.) but I can so relate to some of the other things you're talking about.
He has told hardly anyone that he moved out 3 mo. ago, and those he did tell do not know why. He is continuing to see OW and doesn't want to be married right now; he feels he missed out on other relationships because we married young. I was so embarassed the other day. A good friend whom he used to work closely with called here, looking for my husband. He had NO idea my h. had moved out. I had to act like things were ok; I suggested he call his cell to reach him. I know my h. is ashamed of his actions, and yet he isn't ready to stop what he is doing. It's like something has taken over his soul. I don't recognize him, and it's breaking my heart. Although he denies it, I still believe there is love in there, somewhere. But he is bound and determined to live like this. For how long, I don't know. I don't mean to hijack this thread; I just wanted to say hi and post what my situation is. I will follow along with yours closely to see how things progress.
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
