imdi99, I have good days and bad ones too. Today is not so great. Another incident occured with my H yesterday which made me feel like I am being set up for a divorce. I wish I knew whether to keep dbing or to give it up and make a life for myself and my daughter. After all these years is is hard to think of starting over. Your H sounds so much like mine. They don't really want to give up the M but they don't want to give up the OW either. We cannot make that choice for them, we can only prepare ourselves for the life we have to live ahead of us. We have had the unhappy periods, there will most likely be more, but neither of us deserve to live in misery and pain. Life is to be cherished. Every day of it! Keep smiling and keep busy. My new motto is to "Charge neutral". SallyG
