Sally G- Just wanted to welcome you to the boards. I am sorry I have no advice, but I wanted to let you know that you are not alone. I have been wondering the same thing for days...can a H end a long term A with OW and come back to his M? Wish I knew the answer...it would probably save me a lot of grief. The people here are really great and offer a lot of sensible advice...it has helped me in the past weeks. Read Michele's book(s) as soon as you can...you will find that they offer some great advice as well, along with some comfort. The one thing you will hear is that you have to start focusing on yourself...taking care of yourself will help you in the long run, whether or not you and your H stay together. Also, you have to try to stop thinking about him and OW - I know, its easier said than done, but it might be the only way for you to maintain some sanity. I constantly remind myself that I cannot control my H's actions, only my own. Think about what you can do to bring you closer to your goal. These are the things that made me feel like I had more control over my situation, and thus I felt less hopeless. I am sorry I am not more profound. I am new to this as well...still trying to get a handle on my own sitch and what I can do. Keep coming back...you will find that the people here really do care about you and take great time to respond to you in an effort to help you through a very tough time. Good luck.
