Quoting TS: ------------------------------------------------------ I am curious as to why you think our marriage won't survive. I absolutely don't agree with you that I should leave and won't take any of that advice about leaving. ------------------------------------------------------
I said: ------------------------------------------------------ I think you have two choices, TS. Start a brand new relationship and marriage based on mutual respect and trust, or dump your untrustworthy spouse in favor of a more proven person. ------------------------------------------------------
I don't know what you are referencing regarding the leaving other than the above quote.
I don't think your relationship will survive, based on your comments regarding your wife's 12 year affair.
I do believe that you BOTH can make a choice to leave the past behind, fix the mistakes and move on. From your post, it appears that you have taken steps toward that end. It will still entail much hard work for both of you, and the outcome is uncertain.
Twelve years of bonding is a long time, and it will take your wife a very long time to get over the loss, IF she is indeed able to maintain no contact. During that time of mourning, your relationship suffers.
Statistically, entangled affairs are the most difficult to recover from. The longer they last, the longer and more difficult the recovery. Many experts believe that it takes one to two months per year of entanglement for just the attachment to the other person to abate. If that is true, you have a long way to go.
I truly DO hope you make it.
All the best, -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
