The first time he suggested that problems I was having could be traced to anger at my Mother, the therapist seemed hesitant, as if he weren't sure how I would take the suggestion.
What does you being able to “take” the therapist’s comments have to do with anything? Are you trying to indirectly tell us you’re tough enough to take it? Still trying to boost up that wall, eh?
Actually, I was quite aware of what he was saying and thought it was self-evident. Anyway, as a Gestalt, the therapist encouraged me to imagine him as my Mother and express all my anger and frustration at him in her place (the Gestalt). I had been aware of this anger because of dreams, fantasies, daydreamings, thoughts that came up at stressful times, etc. In all, I have worked with about 8-10 therapists and with all of them have expressed anger that I felt toward Mother and Father, but mostly Mother.
The first piece of real meat you’ve given. So you’re aware of this. Have you done anything about it? My impression, by the embedded venom in your comments, is no.
The therapist we are going to see now is an Imago therapist. If you are a therapy professional I will not insult you with a description of the approach. Suffice it to say that he (the therapist) and I both agree that I felt abandoned by my Mother and am looking for resolution of this abandonment in my relationship with my wife. Now, that is the gracious response if you are a professional.
If you are not, and are a "shithouse lawyer" (forgive the expression I learned in the Army), I will say that I do not accept what you are saying because you have no subject background.
Nothing exclusive about Imago. W and I have been seeing one. This has also been discussed on these boards. You’re not so special, not so smart, not so much better. You’re just angry and chicken.
