… Our pastor likes to show the difference between our congregation and others by saying that, if someone in one of our Sunday School class says, "I am not sure I agree with this doctrine in the Bible," the leader will say, "That's interesting; could you explain further?" Whereas some other congregations in our town might react to the same comment by saying, "Let us all pray that you see the error of your ways." …
My point exactly. The type of religion you worship has nothing to do with this. My father attends a Unitarian church. They stray from orthodox religious services, and tend to have sermons more on philosophical topics. Very interesting stuff, but geared more toward academics. There also tends to be an undercurrent of sneering at the more orthodox, blind faith religions, of the lemming mentality. Unitarians are even more liberal than you, but they can have this “better than the others” way of thinking too.
….She went into the affair to compensate for the fact that her first husband had cheated on her repeatedly. The affair was over when we met. Then the OM called her up 2-3 years after we started living together. She was shocked and when he mentioned the affair, she said emphatically, "It's over." Apparently, and I get this from a copy of a letter the OM sent to his wife after the discovery of the affair, the OM kept up the contacts and eventually talked her into recommencing the affair. It was almost all phone sex, except for 2 or 3 personal visits in a neutral city that she lied about.
This still sounds like you don’t think any of this is her fault. Why don’t you just come out and say it – “She is a completely innocent victim, preyed upon by this other man, who forced her to pick up the phone, to meet with him and spreads her legs. Its not her fault at all!” Give me a break will you!
Why was she inclined to even think about such a thing, regardless of what happened with her previous husband, if she was happy with you? Maybe you failed her? Maybe you didn’t meet her needs. Ever think about that?
How can you have strong ego and arrogance and low self-esteem at the same time? I suppose if you think it is possible, in your world it is possible.
You’re kidding me, right? Where do you think a strong ego and arrogance comes from???? Both of these are defenses to cover up weaknesses, which I suspect is low self esteem in your case. You show it in a very passive aggressive manner. What is it in your childhood that created this?
I still see a lot of rationalization in your comments and not one word of trying to explain or understand her point of view. Come on, out with it.
