Is there anything anyone on here can say to you (that differs with what you believe) that you wouldn't view as an attack?
You weren't being accused of being henpecked.....Lil was merely throwing something out there to see if it fit your situation....yet you twisted her words and called them attacking, why?
The posters on this BB often throw things out there to see what sticks in order to see if that could possibly be something happening in someone's situation....in order to help ferret-out problems, or make someone think differently about their situation.