The Art of Sexual Ecstasy - Anand

[TSinAtlanta]

I wonder if part of your problem lies in the fact that your W dominates you, you don’t like it, but are too scared to stand up to her. So you get angry that she doesn’t have the empathy, decency, morality, what ever, to be more respectful of you as you are without having to be more assertive, aggressive, more male

Yeh, you're wondering that, but I haven't posted anything to suggest that. It's possible, that I am very angry about that, but anger usually comes out in some destructive behavior (not here, in real life). If the anger were there, I assume it would have come out in our MC sessions. Or in drinking. Or in antisocial behavior - fights, road rage, psychosocial problems. We are seeing an MC whom I respect (he has worked with some others in our church, and they also have good things to say about him, as does our minister). Things like anger or repressed anger usually come up in therapy, but I haven't heard that from him, so don't think it's an issue. Before making the above "comments", you could have done a little research and looked at my previous post:
TSINATLANTA

When I give feedback, I usually try to at least cite someone's quotes. I have gotten very angry with my WS several times, not often, but it has happened. The result was she went upstairs, lay down on the bed and cried. So we cried together and I said I was sorry that it came to that. I suspect that I let things build up and don't bring things up that bother me, out of apathy or laziness or whatever. I'm not projecting anything anywhere. If I don't like the respect that women give here to macho comments, I don't like them and say so.

When I found out about the affair, my wife apologized, cried, said she was sorry and promised no more contact and to work on our marriage, said she thought we had a strong marriage. Our minister, whom I respect also, told me, "You would be surprised how many marriages I consider good marriages have had to deal with affairs. But you need to know that things in the past cannot continue, and you need to work on your marriage." Which we are doing.

When we began our MC, my WS also told the MC that she was sorry at how she had hurt me and wanted to work to repair the hurt. (This information is already on my posts). So, as I said, anything is possible, but look at my situation first, then make your comments.

So, now we get to attacks again. I classify accusing me of being henpecked and not having the courage or honesty to stand up to my wife as a personal attack. So anyone is capable of personal attacks if rubbed the wrong way, not just myself.