I agree with what Mrs NOP is saying. I get the very strong impression that you have a LOT of pent up anger and resentment, justifiably so. But as I have been saying lately in my thread, that must evaporate in order to move forward. I wonder if part of your problem lies in the fact that your W dominates you, you don’t like it, but are too scared to stand up to her. So you get angry that she doesn’t have the empathy, decency, morality, what ever, to be more respectful of you as you are without having to be more assertive, aggressive, more male. You rail against the macho BS that other men must put up in order to be attractive to women, but that very macho-ness, which is lacking in you, is truly what makes you angry. In essence, you are projecting!
Your anger and your problems stem from within you. All your comments so far seem to be nothing more than rationalizing your behavior, saying why everyone else is wrong and you are right and why can’t we seem the wisdom of your outlook. I see very little in your comments that are directed at attacking your wife. You seem to be scarred of her even on this board! Could it be that attacking her will ultimately come back to your faults, and you know this, so you lash out at everyone else on theoretical grounds, where you think you can make your point?
Drop all of it. Go inside yourself and find your fears. Post them here. Then start moving forward.
