Yeh, well, I could have expected that attack. But my response is, I suspect I wouldn't have gotten past first base with most of the women on this board for the very reasons I have given above. I don't want to engage in macho, ballsy, directive behavior, which is what most women on this board seem to respond to.
You know you color what you're saying by the words that you choose. Instead of "macho, ballsy, directive behavior" can be a jaundiced-eye view of "assertive, confident, assured."
I don't see any women falling all over BF, contrary to what you continue to assert. In fact, a couple of them were giving him a not-so-very pleasant assessment of some of the characteristics they perceive him as displaying.
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My WS didn't seem to want that from me when were getting to know each other. Quite the contrary. She had had enough of that from her first husband (mr. macho man). So, and again we didn't really discuss this in detail, because being a man, I get bored with discussing relationships at length, but I assumed my WS was willing to give the "other side" (gentle, kind, considerate, generous men) a chance.
"Gentle, kind, considerate, generous" man could be viewed (if we want to use your reciprocal jaundiced-eye view) as "weak, sentimental, indecisive, martyr" men.
But that's not very productive.
I'll tell you what I think. I think it is very difficult (and understandably so) to deal with *your* specific situation. You have quite a bit of anger (again, understandably so) and rather than foist that on your wife within the confines of your relationship, you've stepped away from your *specifics* and have chosen to expend your anger into the *generics*.
Hence, the ongoing jabs at the women here and the men who you deem to be the antithesis of yourself.
But that's not very productive either.
So, rather than beat everyone about the head with your displeasure fo the general interactions between men and women, why don't we discuss your specific situation?
