Quote: I will say many, many women have zippo self esteem and look to men entirely TOO much to have it filled which statement I didn't understand where it was coming from or what the context was, but I totally agree with BF on that and I will go so far as to say that statement pretty much sums up the message I am posting on the board.
I don't think either gender has the corner on the lack of self esteem. Anyone that reads this forum for any length of time can very well tell that men are just as needy esteem-wise as are women. I think a great deal of this has to do with the reality that the lines aren't drawn so thick or darkly as they once were in regards to what constitutes man and woman. So, we're all wandering around trying to achieve a standard that no one can point to accurately anymore. In other words, gender roles have been in turmoil for the last 30+ years and both genders are still reeling from it.
In my opinion, BF has confused a female lack of self-esteem with the female need for security. A lot of things go into causing that need which I can list out if anyone can't plug in their own reasons. But females (warning for generalizations) aren't accustomed or outfitted fully for providing for our own security, so we look to our spouse/SO for it. When he's occupied trying to shore up his own insecurities, weaknesses and shortcomings we tend to get idgitty.
