I can't imagine the pain that must entail, nor the sense of betrayal. How are you dealing with it?
Well, yeh, that's what I have been saying all along. We are trying to rebuild (my WS and I) with some help from MC and talking things out honestly and using some of the Hendrix exercises (we should do them more but tend to let them lapse) Harville Hendrix
As far as pain and betrayal, I think or suspect that most on this board have experienced some of that. I am assuming that not all have had to deal with affairs, but I would suspect the majority here have. I am saying that dealing with that wrenching pain means rebuilding, which means tearing down sometimes. Also, since I have been lied to, when women on the board defend macho (what an overworked word, I wish there was another way to put it) posturing by USSwede, BF and other, a red flag goes up for me. More lying. You say you want a mutually respectful relationship with your spouse, but you respond positively to dominant, power-seeking, aggressive behavior. (This is kind of nebulous. I'll have to think more about that and come up with something more specific.)
"The world breaks everyone and afterward many are strong in the broken places." - Ernest Hemingway, A Farewell to Arms, 1929.
