Blackfoot, I remember back in 2004 just how much help and inspiration I gained from this board in particular the detailed discussions we had about the SSM and PM books. It cured my SSM and at least got us ML again. At the moment I am marking time but your "Alpha male" outlook is stiring the fire in me to try to move to the next level. In many ways I'm a slightly more hairy Hairdog. I have alph male somewhere in me but she has suppressed him over the years with her strong personality and by belittling me over trivial things. For example last night when she got in from work as soon as she was in the door she absolutely let fly at me for parking in the wrong space in the driveway - what's all that about?. Also I have a tendency to give, give, give and just accept that I will get little in return. There comes a point where you start to think "This is probably as good as it gets" because the effort required to advance seems to be exponential. To move to the next level - say her initiating or even her contributing to the LM - would require such an Earth shattering change on her part that she would need a personality transplant to even think about it. Friday is our LM night but how do I approach the problem of getting her to do something more than just lying back and thinking of England? SD
