Hairdog, my heart goes out to you... those withdrawal side effects are MURDER! I had them (different ones from yours) when I was coming off paxil. I remember going out with a friend and just walking around and around the block trying to fight off the mental stuff, the anxiety, the shakes... it was awful.
I would like to slap your W! My God, I wonder if you were being wheeled into surgery (God forbid!) she would stop the gurney and insist on having a R convo right there in the hallway!! She seems to become aroused when you're down, suffering, feeling bad, feeling kicked and abused... and then she abuses you some more... and THAT gets her going. Right now, you've got to take care of yourself.
For me the withdrawal lasted for about a month... I don't remember exactly. If you google on it, you may find some tricks to make it more tolerable. My doc actually put me on Wellbutrin for a while to help with the paxil withdrawal. I'm SO sorry you're going through it.
Yes Wildebube. I expect to be charged more to live where I do. Unfortunately the Council Tax is only 25% of what the local council spend. The other 75% is from central government funds. Here's the catch 22. If the local council becomes more efficient and spend less they cannot reduce the council tax because the government reduces the central funding. So it is in the interest of the council to spend at least as much as last year to secure the top up. They recently sent an old lady to jail for not paying the above inflation portion of the Council Tax. It may not seem like a valid topic to write about here but the creeping burden of taxation and the control freak Big Brother government is killing the morale of the middle classes here in England (sorry "The UK" (it is not PC to say England anymore because apparently it excludes minorities) - look on any on-line ordering system and you won't find England in the list (or Scotland or Wales). The biggest topic of conversation in any gathering of people is the mushrooming of speed cameras that trap you for driving a few miles per hour over the limit. You get a $100 fine (and the insurance companies charge you $60+ per year extra) and if you get 4 of them they take your license away. These cameras are supposed to be for safety but they are usually placed where traffic naturally speeds up such as when going down a hill or going out of a town. They raise huge amounts of money and there can be several in a couple of miles of road. The mood is souring here and look at France! Angry mobs burning buildings and hundreds of cars! Immigration gets a lot of press coverage here but what goes unnoticed is that almost as many people are emigrating mostly to the US, Canada and Australia and those people are the highly educated and skilled workers. Angry oppressed people do not make fun bedfellows!
Quote Lilliperl "She seems to become aroused when you're down, suffering, feeling bad, feeling kicked and abused... and then she abuses you some more... and THAT gets her going."
Quote HD "I had my MC session at 3pm, without Ms. Hdog. She had to decline because some court hearing got scheduled at a conflicting time"
Hairdog! I've seen your W on a new (to us) day time TV show! Over here she goes by the name "Judge Judy"!
RED ALERT. HAIR DOG, did you read my last post? before superdaves?
Please do so, and ask questions if neccesary.
I am absolutely thrillled to death with what is happening right now. Do you understand why.
This is good things happening. I have been expectantly waiting for your update. I am dying to tell you what happened, but I want you to explain it to me so I know you are 'getting it'.
Ahh I am freaking out with excitement for you. continue doing what you are doing. Dont change anything. Thanks for adding in the effexor, adderall, ADD med info.
Sorry Lil I dont see it the same way as you AT all. Her code is so specific and easy, pretty soon she is going to crack and stop with the code....hopefully.
my email is blackfootca@hotmail.com if you are so inclined... HD. I am putting this in because I wish I could get a hold of you now.
Okay, so I sent an email to blackfoot. Now I'll probably get all those "InCrease YOUR Staying Power***" spams in my email box.
Lil: thanks for your thoughts. I can feel the love!
So W wants me to go back onto my anti-depressant. Yes, she says that I didn't check with her before deciding to go off of it, and that I should have done that, and then we could have planned a better time to do this when there is "less stress" in our lives.
I told her no. I told her that I would do my best to keep my side effects to myself, that I would do my best to support her in this stressful time, but that I was not a depressed person and did not need to be on this medication. Furthermore, I would not stay on the medication just to avoid the side effects of going off of it.
She said that my decision would have consequences relevant to our relationship. She asked if I would move to my mother's house while I was going off the meds...and said that if I didn't, she might leave.
My take: She's trying to control me. I don't give a sh!t.
My plan: Proceed normally, don't share any weird feelings I'm having with her, learn from this.
Her telling you not to go off that med struck me as a very selfish thing for her to say. As if you'd be inconveniencing her. So rather than supporting you in your attempt to get off of this med she'd rather you stay on it just so she doesn't have to deal with the consequences until it's a better time in her world to do so.
Now, just to make sure....the med you were taking was/is an anti-depressant. You are absolutely sure you don't need to take it anymore? Have you spoken to your Dr. about discontinuing the use of this med? Just trying to make sure everything is done safely here for your sake.
I have known people (not saying you are doing this) that have had reason to take different meds who then go off them when they feel they don't need them....yet they don't see what other people see from the outside. That's why I ask if you've checked with your Doc. Just Big/Little Sis GEL looking out for ya!
Thanks for your concern, GEL. Yes, I spoke to my doctor and also to the MC. I never felt any different before/after starting this med. I don't think, and the MC and doc agree, that I'm depressed, other than sometimes situationally.
No, for me, the big change came when I started Adderall. I know there's a lot of debate about ADD, and I honestly couldn't tell you if I have "it" or not. All I know is that once I started taking it, I felt like a fog had been lifted. And that's good enough for me.
Ok...so you, your doc, and your MC agree that you should discontinue use of this one med. Your W should be all for it. It would be different to me if you were going off of this because you simply didn't feel you needed it any longer and hadn't consulted the proper people.
I suspect that there probably wouldn't be a "good time" for your W for you to discontinue use of this med...so I'm with you 100%, I think it's her trying to control you. Because afterall, if you don't stay on the drug and you do go off it after she's asked you not to....then you obviously aren't taking her wishes into consideration now are you? BAH! HUMBUG! That's a load of crap and she knows it.
She's not taking your well-being into consideration at all....and THAT is very selfish.
Quote: I suspect that there probably wouldn't be a "good time" for your W for you to discontinue use of this med
I totally agree, and I'll carry it one step further... there probably isn't a good time for you to do anything that she doesn't want you to do. Or anything that she wants you to do, without checking with her first.
Ok, blackfoot, out with it! What is Mrs. h doing that's so positive and wonderful? I'm dying to hear your POV on this one. I do see her as trying to reel hd back in as he is becoming more of his own man. Are you talking about that? Or is there more?
