I think there are many of us who are coming down with that because at some point, after trying so hard for so long, it's bound to happen. I view it almost as a right-of-passage.
I had to get to this place in order to really begin GAL for myself, and stop worrying about whether what I might do or say upsetting my H or possibly destroying any progress that's been made.
I have to do what's best for me as a person, in order to be the best GEL I can be...and the best mom I can be to my S. As our MC says if that means that I have to back off and withdraw from my H in order to rejuevinate then do it. It's better than me doing something else drastic that I might regret later.
At least I feel I'm being true to myself throughout this "don'tgiveashititis" phase. I'm not acting as if everything is ok, it's not. I'm not giving my H that false sense of security that I used to...it didn't help. Of course I'm not doing anything intentionally mean or cruel either. I'm not being b!tchy or hateful, but if I don't want to be phsyical with him...or even physically close to him....I'm not going to pretend that I do.
He's noticing that this "phase" as he calls it, isn't leaving like it used to either. Hopefully, he'll pick up the rope sometime soon.
