Quote: She also started grousing about how "people" keep "shoving paper" into drawers into the kitchen desk. She said this as she was cleaning the desk. I said, "yep."
HD,
My wife is also quite good at shouting out vague things into the ether. "No one helps around here," or "I can't do all of this by myself," etc. We actually BOTH started doing this, over the years, I suppose as our own awkward, non-confrontational way of dealing with each other. I actually started noticing, maybe a year or two ago, HER starting to put into practice some of the advice YOU (and I) have been given on here. If I would say something very vague, she'd immediately say "Who are you directing that at?", and, "I hope you don't mean ME with that comment?"
Of course, it annoyed the chit out of me, but it worked -- I would back down.
She would also start to say things (again, very unlike her) -- without yelling -- like "Well, I didn't appreciate that," or "I would appreciate it if you wouldn't talk to me that way."
You'd THINK I would have picked up on it, and started to get better at that myself, but it's only in the past couple of months that I've also learned to be less willing to delve into her crap when she gets irate and disrespectful. Now, I'll say things like "Oh", or "I refuse to talk to you when you interrupt me," or "I can't talk to you when you get this way; let me know when you'd like to discuss it more calmly" (and it works!), but I'm wondering now where SHE learned this stuff!
In any event, KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK -- it's clearly "working," so long as you're careful to define "working". I don't think it'll get you laid anytime soon, but you sure feel better about YOURSELF, don't you?
