Quote: Supposing you had an affair. What kind of things would you do different, would you want to try with OW? How could you incorporate them now?
Don't get me started, dude. Oral sex would be high on the list, as W hates giving or receiving. I'm not even sure what you're getting at with this question, so please clarify for me.
This morning, W saw one of DD4's socks on the floor and threw a hissy about it. I "always" lose her socks, "always" leave them laying around, etc. And I told her, again, "please do not treat me this way." She answered that request by telling me why she finds it necessary to treat me that way (how I "never" listen to her, how I'm "always" losing socks). I just looked at her, then looked back to the pc screen, while she stood there waiting for me to wade into her sh!t. She finally gave up, and huffed away, muttering "I'm done!" which is her way of threatening me with divorce or something like that.
We had a couple more interactions as I was leaving with the kids. We had been planning to attend my DS16's final marching band performance tonight, so I said to her, "do you want to talk now about the details of getting to the football game?" She said, "I don't know if I'll be able to make it. I'm so busy."
I just said, "Oh. Well, let me know if you're able to come with us. We'll be leaving here about 6:15." No answer.
She also started grousing about how "people" keep "shoving paper" into drawers into the kitchen desk. She said this as she was cleaning the desk. I said, "yep." She said, "are you ignoring me?" I said, "no." I mean, WTF, I answered you, didn't I? I then said goodbye and was out the door.
I have to tell you, not letting her bad behavior affect me, not tolerating her disrespect toward me, and not wading into her crap, has had a profoundly liberating effect on me. I feel great this morning. Nothing to apologize for, because I didn't get in an argument and say/do something regretful. Basically, this leaves me being owed an apology by her, but I don't expect one, nor do I think she's a horrible person for not giving me one. In fact, I feel quite loving towards her because I know she's stressed due to work-related busy-ness, but fighting with me is not going to help that.
