Quote: I just need to realize that it's not a choice between Mr. Nice Guy and Mr. Angry Guy. There's a lot of space in the middle.
Bravo!
I know the last thing you need right now is another book... but there's one called Tell Me No Lies, and it talks about getting those unpleasant feelings out in the open, sharing them, and finding out the world doesn't end. For example, one lady in the book confessed to her H that every day she wished him dead because she wanted out of the M but didn't have the guts to leave him. Needless to say, hearing that was a shock to him, but it cracked the protective wall each one had built around him/herself. Hers was not sharing her feelings, good and bad, and his was being Mr. Nice Guy and keeping his feelings to himself, too. It's well written and has lots of examples.
