I come from this great family (which means we are probably the new dysfunctional )
I have three brothers my mum and my stepdad (my father died years ago)
anyhow all of us never ever have held grudges and all try not take sides knowing that we only know one side of a story and not the whole story while at the same time trying to validate how the person is feeling (this is where I have to say my parents did a great job) anyhow I guess what I am trying to say is my mum and step dad miss H - they have never said anything bad about him - not their style - even now they both say if he wanted help from them they would give it to him, if he wanted to talk they would listen.
He knows what they are like and still he believes what he has done is so bad they must hate him. If he thought they would be here he wouldn't come, and he knows them well and always got on with them great. Same thing with my brothers they ask how he is but he thinks they hate him.
They are not calling as they don't know what to say to him, and understand they could make him feel worse - and don't want to mess anything up for me.
It's a fine line this balancing act isn't it how to keep standing in the middle
one side anger is pushing you over and on the other patience trips you up
meanwhile we walk through the maze searching for the exit which has to be somewhere over this emotional rollercoaster
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