Caverna. It sounds like all he is saying at the moment is that he needs space from the M. It sounds like he is feeling trapped. You won't get him to come back untill he has found all the space he needs and experienced it. Only when he does this will he realise the problem or feelings he has with regards to being trapped in the M are still with him, At the moment is is blaming you for the way he feels.
You are going to have to be patient and give him time. You'll never be able to push him to come back; if you do he will be resentful.
I would suggest you go dark. I remember when you did that before he came closer towards you. I wonder if you are already slipping back into bad habbits and it has scared him.
It's not easy. You must feel so lost, afraid and confused. I can read it between the lines of yourpost. If I can see that your H must be able to see that too. It is not a good feeling to be around someone whois unhappy, especially if we feel responsible for making them unhappy. You need to ge a PMA and focus more on your life. Become the kind of woman he would be a fool to leave.That is where all of your energy should be going. That way, if he doesn't wake up from this you'll know that you did your best to save your marriage.
What do you think? What can you do to make you feel better about yourself? How can you cherish yourself and make yourself happy..just for today?
