When I came home, the dog wasn't here. Usually that means H is bringing it back later, when he knows I am going to be at home. That's why I call it "the dog trick." When he wants to see me, he keeps the dog till later in the evening.
I had told H when I was angry last week that he should call before he came over, so I could get out of the house not to see him.
Later on I appologized for being so harsh and he said now HE wanted the distance.
Anyway, he called the house and announced he would be here whithin 15 minutes. He came, openned the door, let the dog in and closed it.
AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAARGH!!!!! He drives me crazy!!!!
So I immediately called him with a very calm voice and said: "I don't know why you are still playing this game. It's so silly. I appologized already. Your avoiding me now is your choice. Just remember that."
I don't know if I did right. Maybe calling him reinforced that he wants me to keep appologizing. Maybe I shouldn't have reacted to it.
I have to learn not to react to his obvious provocations, or else he will keep doing it.
I do think he did this to (AGAIN) get my attention. Otherwise, he would have dropped the dog before I got home (before 9pm). It was 9:30 when he called. He wanted to show me (or test me, or punish me) that he was coming over, but not to see me; just to drop off the dog.
Gosh! Will this ever end?????
The good sign (if there is any) is that he is still trying to get my attention, to get reassurance that I am still interested, that I am still affected by the things he says or do. If he didn't care, there would be no game playing.
Didn't I get married so I wouldn't have to play games anymore???
