caverna, Hi. I was reading your posts. I wanted to comment on the hot/cold issue you are having with your husband. I know with mine, what seems to make a big difference is when he's spent time with o.w. and then shortly after we talk or see one another; I can totally tell a difference in his attitude. It might be guilt playing into it; he feels he can't be hopeful for you or loving in any manner because of that (is there o.w. in your situation?). It's just what I've noticed in my own mess; may not hold water for yours. So sorry you're having a bad day; so am I. Came on here to just read and post tonight; so sad. I hope you feel better.
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
