Hey everyone I thought I was the only one with problems I am so glad I found this site.
Okay since I am brand new to this site let me explain the situation.
Im 27 years old and my wife is 30 years old. We have been married 4 years. I am in the military and it used to cause me to travel all the time. So my wife doesnt work she is what most people would call a housewife, except she doesnt clean unless I complain enough to make her, she doesnt do dishes but she does cook my lunch and dinner everyday. The first three years of our marriage I was gone traveling a little less then half the year. So I didt want her to be working when I was home cause I wanted to spent as much time as I could with her. She is my best friend and we love each other as much as two people can. We only knew each other 3 months before we got married but she was very sexually active and although more then once a week is what i wanted I feel fortunate to be able make love that much. She has gained about 50 lbs since we got married basically because she goes to Starbucks everyday or lays around watches TV all day, or goes out with her girlfrieds. The problem is I dont understand why she doesnt clean or want to work? She had to abort our baby about 8 months ago because of complications and had a lot of problem resulting from that like swollen ovary and a lot of pain and bleeding all has since been corrected. Since then we have only ML three times.It has been almost 2 month since the last time? She tried one time just because she knew I was suffering but just couldnt get into it.I dont how I can do this for the rest of my life. I definetly couldnt live with out her, She is my soulmate. So divorce is not an option. She is still very affectionate and cuddly, we say Love you at least 20 times a day and kiss as much as possible. After reading some other posts i guess I left out some information. In the first year of our marriage I did take a woman home with me although I didnt sleep with her I still took a woman home. She also caught me talking to other girls on the internet, that was three years ago she doesnt act like it bothers her but maybe it could still. When she would catch me she would make me buy her stuff im not sure if I should have. At one point about 2 years ago she told me that she didnt think I loved her and she didnt love me but I think we have emotionally fixed that. We have two dogs also that she would rather sleep with than me. We our moving and when i say im not the dogs then she says if they dont go she wont go. Anybody have any Idea what to do?
