I think her kinkiness in the early part of the marriage is also typical of sexual molestation. Children who have been molested become sexual very early and act very sensual. I’d wager a bet that 99.9% of the strippers in topless bars have been molested. Did her early behavior seem like something a stripper would do? They even have a very provocative, unique way of dancing. You can’t miss it.
I feel if the molestation was the case, if her love for me is strong, she would have really worked on this.
Sorry, but even I have to call you out on this one!! If she were molested, she has endured more pain and anguish than you can imagine! The work it will take to get her back to any sense of “normalcy” is going to be very big. This is no small matter. That you could be so self-centered to say she only needs to work on herself to help you feel better is the epitome of conceit and lack of empathy!
Sorry to be so hard, but if you don’t see this in a different light, she is going to eventually get very P.O.’d at you and it will drive a huge wedge between you two. Again, get her into counseling.
