Congrats, Ren--it is always great to see success stories! I don't know if it's "normal", but the feeling you describe after 3-4 months back together is familiar to me too. I felt anxious and worried after a few months too. I was waiting for him to say he changed his mind and didn't want to be home after all. We are almost 6 months back together and I'm feeling better about it. I think it does take a little more time than we think it should. For me it seems that I'm a little low on self confidence. The more confident I am in me and what I'm doing in the R, the more comfortable the R is for me and the less I worry. I must keep DBing every day to feel good about me. And I have to keep looking at the positives instead of dwelling on the negatives. Backslides happen, but I'm not perfect and never will be. Just have to keep trying.
