hiya Wendy How did you ski? After reading your post of a few weeks ago I wondered if you could create a situation in which your H would feel like supporting you. I know you don't like doing things which feel unnatural to you but sometimes it may be helpful to give a little prod to ease the feeling of stagnation. Could you stop by Hs study on your way to bed and tell him something from your past that you were thinking about which showed your vulnerability. Obviously you can't expect him to respond in any way but whatever way it is - even if he says nothing you could thank him for listening and give him a little kiss. My H said to me the other day that sometimes he puts his arm around me and feels he is cuddling a child, which was something he had never felt before and that he likes it because it makes him feel manly.
I can't remember how physical you were before the A - what was it like at the beginning of the relationship?
I still don't have much confidence about giving advice but hope you can 'do' something. lots of love
