Unilateral Disarmement - 3

[Wendylon]

Thank you, midip, for your wise words. It's great to hear from you. Yes, I think he has given up a huge fantasy. Thanks for reminding me.

This week-end went well. Once a month we have a week-end without the kids because S10 and D8 go along for the ride when S6 goes to stay with one of his therapists. Having that time once every month to be on our own allows me to track how things are going. I still think it's in the right direction.

Nothing dramatic, just little things. H brought me back a hot chocolate when he went to get his coffee this morning and yesterday even though I hadn't asked him. A few smiles, a few laughs. We had supper out last night and then brunch today. We had lots to talk about (S6 and the upcoming tribunal, his work--which is going really well, my first client--a boy with Landau Kleffner Syndrome...)

This week has been really busy with visits to schools (the one we want for S6 and the LEA's school). As always, we have pretty much exactly the same view when it comes to decisions about S6. Neither of us will allow S6 to go the the LEA's school (school district's school), as we're both convinced that S6 would regress and lose many of the skills that we've taught him over the last 3 and a half years. We're talking big skills like speech.

This afternoon, I really helped him out. He's been trying to get a kitchen for his mother's flat. He couldn't get the credit rating to order the kitchen yesterday so I went with him and we did it with my credit card. For some reason, they needed 3 months' worth of bank statements of mine so we went to an internet cafe and then back to the shop with my statements and waited for my credit rating to be checked again. It took a good 2 and a half hours that I would have preferred to spend catching up on admin and going to yoga but in the end I realized that it was helping H. At one point, I was tempted to tell him how much I was extending myself but then thought that this was an opportunity for me to be generous and kept quiet. (By the way, I'm not paying for the kitchen, just got the credit rating to go ahead!) As we came home, H thanked me profusely several times and said how much he appreciated me going with him.

I'm really glad that he isn't already in China as originally planned. That's another fantasy that he gave up for the sake of the family and the planning for S6's tribunal. He's going on Wednesday instead and will only be away 5 days.

Must try to get an early night. Another busy week ahead.

Wendy