Unilateral Disarmement - 3

[Wendylon]

How lovely to hear from you, Midip! Your post somehow snuck in before mine because it wasn't there when I wrote earlier and now it's ahead of mine. Anyway, as always your comments made me laugh and see things differently. I love your image of H running out of the house screaming because I've kissed him goodnight. You have such a knack for using humour in a way that is very illuminating and thought-provoking. Thank you very much.

I'm dying to know more about how you're doing. I must say that I feel really proud to know you too and really admire how you've handled yourself. You are a great model.

Thank you so much, H2H, for taking the time to work through my issues with spontaneity and WOA. Whenever you put things in terms of the kids, I can see really clearly that there is nothing wrong with careful planning and editing. On the contrary, those processes are desirable. Yes, I want to make that leap of generosity in my R with H. I know I'm a bit tight around him and it's easy to focus on what he's not giving me.

A few minutes ago, H was in our bedroom (I'm in bed with my laptop). We were talking about S6 and he then mentioned a suggestion that he'd made today when he was working with the family of a child with autism . I was impressed with his idea and said, "That sounds like a great idea; I don't think I would have thought of that." He smiled nicely as he went to finish writing up his report. So no good-night but a pretty good exchange.

Thank you again for the insights. This BB is such a fantastic resource and support. Every now and again, I'm really struck by the impact that something like this BB can have on people's lives. I feel very lucky to be one of the people who benefits from it.

Wendy