I love where H2H is going with her Q&A, so I'll leave you be.
Could it be possible that your H has mistaken your apprehension to mean that you are not interested in him sexually? What would happen if you were to really demonstrate that you want him?
How did things progress with your son? Inquiring minds want to know...
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
Betsey 
