Quote: I ask for it many times but really just wanted her to change.
What do you mean by this? You asked for a divorce in an effort to get her to change? I'm sure you realize now that isn't too wise.
Quote: I don't know what to tell her to make her want me.
Nothing. You can tell her absolutely nothing that will make her want you. When you first met did you talk her into wanting you or did that develop without having to convince her? I think listening to her and trying to be her friend is the right approach. You just have to be patient with it. She will either choose to try again or she won't. You can't force it.
Quote: DB doesn't work if they don't know that you are doing it.
Changes you want to make for yourself are for your own benefit. Things that she complained about that were also things you realize are undesirable and you want to change for yourself. It doesn't matter whether she notices or not...someone will. From a distance you pretty much have to be patient until she initiates. Does she allow you at least some visitation with your step-D? I would hope so. That time would give you an opportunity to talk in person...(not R talks though).
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
