so the question is, do i communicate? do i continue to LRT? do i forget about everything and move on?
DB, I'd say the answer is to move on, rather than hold on. You have to let go in order to heal. Then later, when you're healed, you can deal with it more effectively. Right now, sounds like you're holding onto what was instead of dealing with what is. You always have the option to communicate with her, even in the future, but if you find right now that it's keeping you stuck, then opt to let that go for now. You're your priority here, not her.
