hello everyone, i need serious advice. or ideas, opinions,........ well, so far i am moving along better emotionally, time sure makes one heal, and i am definitely doing better. my question is regardin my really lame DBing. W has written and writes really nice, only about daughters, she wishes me health, and is really open to friendship. i, however, do not wish to be friendly because i am still in love. what does this cause? well, just like NY Survivor, i bet that if we communicate, if i am nice, if we get along well, she will only say at some moment in time, ¨hey, i was only being a friend cause we have Ds, and because i like you as a friend¨. i do not want to hear that, because frankly i did not leave the R, i was committed to it, i was left behind. actually, that scenario happened at the 5th month of separation. we were communicating, and suddenly, i told her i missed her, or i loved her, and she calmly responded that she still was with OM. so, it is better to GAL and LRT. at least that is the conclusion NYsurvivor arrived. after all the friendship, his Ex told him that he misunderstood her, that she was on a different plane?????? WTF!!! well, that happened to me as well. so the question is, do i communicate? do i continue to LRT? do i forget about everything and move on? i guess i shouldnt lie to myself, why on earth do i keep reading daily the wonderful forum, and keep on posting? i wish someone would objectively analyze and post their perspective. i need serious input. hugs and strength to everyone out there in the soap opera called LIFE.
