walkingback, thank you darling, sweetie, treasure, your words helped me alot. you know, when W left july 05, i DBd to my best, and in September of 05, when everything i thought were baby steps, i called one day and she sort of pressured me to file because she was still with OM. that killed me again. you know, i am terrified to go through that again. i have to say that for a brief moment i was happy, but i have now the experience to know that maybe it was a moment of civility. i would like to ask you specifically mean by loving detachment. thanks for evertything.
