OK PEOPLE I NEED HELP NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I NEED AN ARSENAL OF OPINIONS, PERSPECTIVES, AND POINTS OF VIEW TO BE ABLE TO DECIDE, PLEASE HELP EVEN IF IT IS ONE SENTENCE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! W wrote back and said that no, she wants to stay there, and that she sees Ds happy and adjusted. that the move would be going back to yesterday, and that she sees a new life for her. Oh my God, incredible!!!!!!!! it is like she moved on, she also mentioned passages from the Bible, like let the dead bury the dead, and that life etc. etc. I know there has to be hope, maybe pushing it, maybe not wanting to accept reality, but since i have been a cheater, i know that she will find out eventually..... i just know it. so, what should my strategy be now. oh, forgot to mention, she thinks that we should file or do something so that she has peace of mind, and so that Ds are informed clearly of what is going on... found out that here, if you are separated for 2 years than the D is automatic. the other alternative is to have an agreement (civilized), and the other is to go all out. i dont want that, i dont want fights, i want the agreement but like 8 months from now, or after the 2 years of separation. or is it better to just get the D now???? what do you think, i cant change her mind, so just quit??????????? is it better to time pass a bit more??? i tried the distancing, and it worked, she even told me she wanted to decide, maybe OM is making her fall madly in love, and she changed. i also notice alot of anger towards me, in a letter she said that we are in this situation because i shouted at her, our D, because i strayed, and that it wasnt good or bad, but it was. she is clearly convinced......... should i not believe her??????????? what the hell, please help!!!!!!!!!!!
