When I read that you were going to a retreat like that I was impressed, but thought it might be a little ambitious. Those things are HARD. A few months after my H moved in with OW I went to a health resort, that wasn't as full on as yours, but still, heaps of exercise/yoga, quite a lot of meditation, very sparten lodgings and food etc and I found it really difficult.

I think you have to be in a very strong mental state to cope coming face to face with yourself for such a long period of time.

My advice, for what it's worth, is stay as a supportive friend until you get a strongish signal from her that more would be OK. I know it's hard, but patience is the key for you my friend.

Cheers, Virginia

V

Never make someone a priority, who makes you an option.