I can understand why you're angry. Nobody can push our buttons and upset us like our spouses. And you are right in that he is only thinking of himself completely. I went through years of dealing with a self centered person and it was only when I truly let go that everything changed. And I mean truly let go - when I didn't love her anymore, didn't get into discussions/arguments as to what went wrong or what was wrong with either of us. When I completely let go is when she wanted me. And guess what, I had grown to the point where I didn't want her back. And that's what happened, I finalized the divorce, got my sanity and self respect back, and moved on. I am a true believer that to save your marriage you have to let go. I read it in DB but was never able to apply it properly.
