The OW still lives with her 2 kids and her H. My H lives with his divorced younger brother and their elderly mother, in a very, very small house. I decided after our last big fight to go dark for a while to center myself and get control over my emotions. So far I am calmer. He calls son every morning and night and doesn't even mention me, I don't exist as far as he is concerned. So be it. I am learning to accept the divorce but can't accept OW because she lies and won't leave her H but still wants mine, too. I do not understand people like that. How many lives does she have to destroy before she is satisfied. She told me and my H (and anyone else who will listen) that she has cancer and is dying. Her H (who I spoke with back in June) says Yes they are still married and No she does not or has she ever had cancer. She does have an eating disorder that has put a strain on her heart but otherwise is ok. So I guess I just find this all crazy and want my son to stay out of it. Is that too much to ask for an innocent child? My H says he has my sons best interest at heart but not really. It is all about his feelings and the OW's desires, wants and feelings. I had to put foot down about son meeting her but have talked with my son since and told him it is up to him. He does not want to go and if his father forces him he says he will be very unpleasant and then his father will not force him again. I don't know what to tell him. I wish we had that 12 month waiting list here. Unfortunately if we had not had to postpone the divorce to go thru bankruptcy, we would be divorced by now. He seems in no real hurry even though he has filed. He is fighting me on spousal support. We have been married 21 years. I am demanding my share, if he wants out he will take care of it. If not I can wait.
