H left in Mar.05, and I did everything wrong from the start. Chased him right into her arms. Now the fighting has started. He filed in June, we just went thru Bankruptcy and have case hearing in Dec. Now he wants to introduce my S11, to OW, who is still married. If it sounds strange and crazy, well, it is. I threw a fit when I heard. But I trust my son and the values/morals I have tried to instill in him. So haven't GAL yet, but am working on it. What can you do to try to make this divorce business easier? I was married 21 years. This has been rough, I cried a lot. Did lots of stupid things and got angry mostly. Now I am ready to start looking forward again. I am only 44, so am still kinda young. I lost 30 pounds and have guys in their 30's asking me out. I wasn't ready but I think I will take it slow. No emotional relationship for me, yet. Get the divorce first. I really didn't want this and would have taken him back (regardless of all he has done) but now I realize I can't control anything or anyone but me. It is sort of freeing when you think of it that way. My problem now is seeing him during the divorce, I have a feeling it is going to get ugly. Any suggestions to make it easier for ME!!!! I am starting to look out for number 1, me!!! Thanks for listening. I tend to rattle on. Sorry! I truely hope I get to where you are someday. I don't want to be his friend (at least not right now). Someday maybe.
