CAC, I said you were like my H and you are. You both are grounded pilots and seemingly unsensitive guys. I can only say that when H went in for a hernia repair and had his preop shot the softness in his face, his guard was down and he asked, "Will you be here when I get out?"
That was so endearing it softened my "damn, now I have to do this for you too" attitude att. If you don't know what to do. Ask her. But try being vunerable, trusting, "little" in your own way. Try needing her comforts, try engaging her in watching Ole Yeller together or something like that. Try asking her to teach you. Try getting her a little something, just because.
Buy a book, 'the 5 love languages' for starters and read it TOGETHER <---underlined! Sitting on the sofa. Some will be foreign to both of you. Some will be, "just dumb" some will hit home and you can work on it. Some will just start conversation and you two can go from there. {{{HUGS}}}
Pity me that the heart is slow to learn
What the swift mind beholds at every turn.
Edna St. Vincent Millay
