I'll just add that the infertility has been "resolved". I only mentioned it as an analogy...an example of something that is difficult or impossible to truly understand unless you've been there. But yeah, it does reveal another piece of a puzzle re: our "R". the issue was resolved...we have a beautiful 3-year-old son...but the scars from the process through which we had to go to get here, remain. this wasn't the cause of our problems, though. we weren't exactly "swinging from the chandeliers" before we decided to become parents. But it certainly did intensify whatever underlying issues that were already there.
