well, I think you nailed it, here.

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These statements by the other posters ARE meant to offer you comfort, because people don't want you to hurt, but they are about as comforting as when people said to me beside my huband's coffin, "You're young-- you'll meet someone." Yes, people said that. That was true, but way premature.


there's certain things that people just won't "get" until its happened to them. "loss of a spouse" is a big one. ane while they were partly "right" ("you'll find someone"), you won't ever replace H. not ever. life goes on, sure, and it may be a good one, but it won't be the same one.
I found this to be the case with infertility, which w and I had to go through. I used to "not get it". then it happened to me; now I get it. here's a tip: don't ever ever ever say to anyone thats having this kind of difficulty, "why don't you just adopt?". OK? just don't.

I don't know that I'm much for personifying individual organs, but I suppose thats somewhat true. I think it would be easier if there was some ONE to be mad at, rather than a "thing". a heart, or just the circumstance itself...has no conscience. (back to the "it just IS"). There was no malice, or negligence on anyone's part, myself included. "blaming" may not be productive, but it sure feels good. oh, well. maybe it wouldn't be better; just different.
I have certainly "felt" it...still feel it. and I have found other pursuits. But like the old song goes, "...there will never be another you".