So we don’t get how devastating it was for you to loose your dream. So what??? What does our perception of the importance of your dream have to do with you? You are still deflecting and avoiding your responsibility in setting your own direction and making the best of what you’ve got. Stop trying to dodge this and find someone to make it better for you. No one is going to do that. Not your parents, not your wife, no one. So drop the “life just happens,” woe is me, the poor victim way of stinkin’ thinkin’. The longer you keep that up the more your wife will draw away from you. It is just another twist on avoidance.
Do you have it in you to become an inspiration to your family by becoming a success in some other way? Can you empower yourself enough to feel good about another career? That will mean letting go of your anger and resentment. When you do this, you will lose the long trained feeling of control you have over others, control by staying angry, control by keeping everyone else from getting too close, control in setting your own terms of what the relationship will be – cold and distant. That is scary, isn’t it? Are you sure you aren’t holding onto to this lost fantasy to fuel the anger that creates this security blanket?
