I'm not sure if I have ever heard the song but along with 'Just is.' comes My Give-a-Damn's Broke. This realization that not placing value on his words anymore than some dude you find at the bus stop, not personalizing them if you will places an untold amount of distance in a relationship where the only one of the 5LL that are 'illegal' outside the relationship is gone. UHM? No wonder he couldn't answer my "why did you marry me?" question. No wonder CAC4 is having difficulties.

What bond is there? Ok, for sentimental reasons we'll decide to work together to go to one another's Dr's appointments. I'll be the scrub woman and H the handy man. If this were an ofice relationship, who knows, things may grow out of the forced togetherness. But what kind of partnership can be developed with goals dreams and desires can be now? Maybe, Look if I die in the rocking chair, won't you bury the chair with me, cuz that's how it just is? Gives you that sence of togetherness and warmth doesn't it?

There's another song something about It's Hard to Kiss the Lips at Night that Yell at You All Day Long. Did anyone think that trying to insert emotion or comedy or SOMETHING may have been the last desperate attempt for a passionate engagement-- ANYTHING emotional?

With Just is (and ED/no touch), all bonds that differentiate a partner from any other dude Just aren't.

Pity me that the heart is slow to learn What the swift mind beholds at every turn. Edna St. Vincent Millay