Lou, look for little gifts from BB. Maybe this will make scense.
I was mowing the lawn, and H came by. I flagged him down to help move the lawn swing. I had previously cut a clearing RIGHT BEHIND the swing so at most he would have to move it 4 feet to be totally in groomed grass.
This was my "thanks for helping me help you and look even tho you are doing the carrying, I made it so very close"
Well at the end of the row, turning the lawnmower back towards the swing and the rest of the lawn, there he is struggling to move the swing about 25' to the opposite side of the clearing that was cut, accross 20' of not yet mowed lawn to get to the area already cut in the normal pattern.
I hit the ceiling! Why had he not done it the easy way, mine!?!?!?!
He didnt see it. (the lawn is about 4" taller than it should be with the rain and heat we had had lately) WTH?!??! Well he says, he cuts close to the swing and THEN moves it to the pattern cut and he really didnt notice the whole cut for it. $)(@)#)($%@_#(
My ire may not make scense to anyone, but I cant touch him, make him laugh or anything. I get noticed when I cook or do laundry. He doesnt seem to like to be a team on projects. I really can't do anything for him. This was a little gift. A little team work that was not noticed, appreciated or in anyway fell into the good side of the scale.
After a while you take things to heart, personally, when they are really routeen. He did it that way and was going to kill himself by moving it damn near to the otherside of the lawn all by himself. And I got pissed at him for killing himself and not acknowledging the little thing.
So---look for the little things too. Don't fall into the ruts... *smiles*
Pity me that the heart is slow to learn
What the swift mind beholds at every turn.
Edna St. Vincent Millay
