Hey, its early and I gotta get ready for school, but I just thought I'd say I'll be in Belize educatin' some students on Mayan archaeoastronomy and southern hemisphere celestial objects from March 9 - 19. We're planning on Caye Caulker sometime near the beginning. Maybe I'll see you guys there. We plan to go regularly about onced a year (mosly in May though) as part of a travel studies course where we also teach them some geology (I'll also be talking about the impact physics of the Chixhulub site nearby) as well as archaeology. Should be fun.
"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"
I have more to say but want to wait for a couple more posters. If they wish to. I am seeking honesty, no matter what it is.
I don't think you are. I give my honest opinion of your Dominance/Submission remarks, and you let your "minions" answer and don't even bother yourself to respond. I am waiting for your response to:
From what I've read of your posts I see you as a fairly selfish, narcisstic person. Harsh? Maybe, but the "if you want to play with someone elses toys I'm taking mine home" and running away mentality doesn't sound much like a grown up. . . . . . Her, to you, feable attempts at connection are spurned because she doesn't do it just your way. . . .
I see no forgiveness. . .
I swear to God (Allah hu Akbar) I didn't write the above under another handle. I don't even like the Swedes (USSwede). Come to think of it, you probably will admire this guy for his swagger and strutting and preening. An honest reaction you don't want, but someone who puts up a macho front, psychological or otherwise, gets a positive reaction from you. I thank you for the compliment about my strong post on Art of Sexual Ecstasy, though.
"The world breaks everyone and afterward many are strong in the broken places." - Ernest Hemingway, A Farewell to Arms, 1929.
All I gotta say is, "Dude chill out!" This is a message board. Either give constructive advice, commiserate, ask for advice, or uplift the group. There is no place for flaming rants against people.
And I'm not trying to defend BF, I would say the same to anyone who posted what you did.
Go back and count the number of times my posts were never answered and then count how many times I whined about it. If you post here, you take your chances that it won't be responded to.
Peace.
"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"
BF, I have read about your situation and you say you want honest replies. I do not know how I would react should my W have an affair but it appears from here that your desire to remain strong and teach her a lesson is at cross purposes to your happiness.
You have described your wife in terms that suggest that she was an almost perfect match for you prior to her affair. Look around on this board and you will realize that almost perfect matches are very rare. Do not shut the door to one without much contemplation. Again, I have not walked in your shoes but you have helped many on the board, myself included, and I would hate for you to look back in ten years and feel that you made a second horrible mistake.
Gone the carvings and those who left their mark. Gone the kings and queens, now only the rats hold sway.
All I gotta say is, "Dude chill out!" This is a message board. Either give constructive advice, commiserate, ask for advice, or uplift the group. There is no place for flaming rants against people Yeh, but what do have to say about the Swede? Do you agree with him, or are you selective about people who rant?
"The world breaks everyone and afterward many are strong in the broken places." - Ernest Hemingway, A Farewell to Arms, 1929.
TS - I've felt that your tone is unneccessarily harsh at times and confrontational. Perhaps a more diplomatic approach is warranted. It really does help to enable communication even between two diametrically opposed points of view.
You deflect his question by asking about someone else's rant....someone who has visited this SSM board just twice including his most recent post (that I see anyway)? In fact...someone you mentioned in another post not liking? Why? Really, I'm curious....why?
I went back and read Swede's post to BF. I see nothing wrong with it. Yes, he states his opinion in it and calls BF out on some things, perhaps even challenges him to see some things that he believes he may have done....but the tone of his post isn't insulting or condescending....he does no name calling, just states his opinion of BF's situation.
Wai - Wai - Wait a minute. ". . .fairly selfish, narcisstic person . . . feable attempts at connection . . .my way or the highway . . . I see no forgiveness . . . doesn't bode well for future relationships . . . running away mentality". What is necessarily and what is unnecessarily confrontational? I looked back at some of my posts, I feel the knives sharpening already and the search engines clanking, but some "harsh" words I could find in the posts I looked at were "anger", "flunkies - which I didn't say", "minions". I gave our dear NYS the nickname of Uncle because I said I thought of him as a Dutch uncle, and he didn't seem to take umbrage at that, at first. I also said I thought he was looking for an Eliza Doolittle-Professor Higgins type relationship with his WAS.
The words I get in return are "deluded", "hateful", "childish", "verbally abusive", "harsh", "confrontational". Oh, and a 27-year veteran of the police force offered to beat me up in the style of the Duke and then said forget it, as if that takes away any of the threat.
I suppose if you put enough attention on my post, the kimshee will be deflected to me and you won't have to bear the consequences of your post and raise your shield.
"The world breaks everyone and afterward many are strong in the broken places." - Ernest Hemingway, A Farewell to Arms, 1929.
OK, "selfish and narcissistic" is not name-calling? This is not a description of a situation. This is a description of a person, one who is so blind and caught up in his own self-importance that he has no appreciation for the feelings of others. OK, I probably don't agree with USSwede (I said why I don't like him; I don't like Swedes), I haven't thought enough about BF's situation; I am just saying Swede's post is ad hominem. His post says some very unflattering things about BF's personality.
"The world breaks everyone and afterward many are strong in the broken places." - Ernest Hemingway, A Farewell to Arms, 1929.
We plan to go regularly about onced a year (mosly in May though) as part of a travel studies course where we also teach them some geology (I'll also be talking about the impact physics of the Chixhulub site nearby) as well as archaeology. Should be fun.