"Ah, yes, I somehow KNEW this was coming for us, Chromo...methinks it's more the impish boys within us urging on our school chum BF's repartee with the ladies on the board"
Yes, I do love to be Kingmaker, shall we say. Urge someone else into the fray, take credit for their victories and poke fun at their losses. I'm kidding of course. I'm gradually inserting myself into the fray, but remember, 4 months ago I never even looked a the relationship/sex/etc. section in the bookstore, jumped straight over to the science and nature sections (sometimes sci-fi/fantasy). I working on being someone who can "dance with the big boys", but give me a little time. Everyone watch out though, if my confidence level ever gets close to BF's, I'm likely to take over this board. Of course, if my confidence level gets that high, my wife is going to be so hot for me we'll by fcuking so often that you won't see me for weeks. Anyway, the main point is give me a little time and I'll be more able to offer effective advice/support, and not just a bunch of dittos.
"And I doubt Chromo could either. He's out there in the world mixing with crowds and adventurous activities etc. it seems."
It really depends on the situation. Some parties I hide in the corner (as much as humanly possible, I usually still get dragged somehow to front and center), other parties I am cock of the roost. But you are right that I have held myself back a lot in the past due to my insecurities.
"Knock it off with the chocolate, ladies. I'm alone here and still in love with a woman who could care less about me in the same way. Grr, frustration, grrr (now swooning over Chromo, heh)."
DITTO DITTO DITTO. I encouraged it a little bit, but I regret it now. I doubt my W would ever consent to chocolate/caramel/anything being put on her body as a sexual act. GRRRR! Or should I say ROAR!!!! This lion is hungry.
It does give me an idea for a new poll. The problem is I think I'm going to hate the results of that poll. Oh well, sometimes you gotta face the hurt, eh.
"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"
People react to self confidence. Period. End of story. If blackfoot's got it, he's going to attract other people with it.
I don't recall BF posting anything about self-confidence. What caught my eye was his theory about dominance/submission. What held my attention was his theory about the woman submissive in sex and the man dominant. "Proven by biology", he said. Self-confidence, that's another matter.
Lemme ask you this: Are you normally this negative with your spouse? I don't consider myself negative, just not dishonest. If it irks me that I post to BF's site, and he doesn't respond, and his "whatevers" are his surrogate responders, this makes me feel like someone in the President's (God) office, who asks to see the President, "Oh, you're not important, he can't see you, we can let you talk with one of his/her spokespeople (flunkies - no, I didn't say that, I did not say that!!!)."
"The world breaks everyone and afterward many are strong in the broken places." - Ernest Hemingway, A Farewell to Arms, 1929.
Go back, if you feel like it, and read some of BF's previous posts...perhaps you didn't catch those. He did speak quite a bit about self-confidence being attractive to women...and it most absolutely is. It tends to be attractive, to some degree, to men and women. NOPkins also posted quite a bit about this a few months ago.
I believe you come across so negatively on here because you don't post much that's in a positive light. Does that mean you don't think positively, not necessarily...but you don't tend to post positive, encouraging things...at least not that I've seen in this SSM BB. Perhaps you just don't post the things you think of that are positive, or that you notice in other posters replies....but by posting primarily negative things you can come across as a cranky child wanting attention.
Getting irked that someone may not respond to your post means to me, that you are assuming they are choosing not to respond to you. Do you even give the person the benefit of the doubt that they simply may not have seen your post? It happens to all of us. Jumping to the negative line of thinking that he thinks you are just not important is just that...negative.
TS...go back and read some of your posts objectively. You have several people telling you that you come off negatively. Is it just us? Or could it actually be....that you do come off negatively? Try taking an objective look at your posts...maybe you'll see what we see too.
We aren't saying you're some jerk, most likely you're a really nice guy. There's much more to you than what we see here, but take a look at how you come across here and how many people are telling you the same things....there's something to it TS.
Karen, They have you put the snack foods on a community table to share with everyone. At ours, the snacks were out the whole weekend, but people more or less indulged in them during the presentations. Ya gonna share the utensils too I don't recall off hand what we brought. I think MrsGGB might have made her famous fudge (the recipe is on the marshmallow fluff container) and brought that.
Its funny I had 2 intents with my request. One was as you said, and I was looking specifically for Lils response, but knew others would come, especially since LFL reappeared, hence the wording of my 'entreaty'
More on this soon.
Also the men have been remarkable silent, all my male friends say ' you let him live with you? you idiot its all your fault, you deserve it.' and my male aquaintences say the typical 'dump the biatch'. Which prompts me to pick them up by their necks.... have some respect. I dont say that, (except to her face, with humor) dont you either. anyways.
BF, if you get that D will you marry me? LOL. At least YOU can look past all the sparkly diamonds in my ring offer for a much deeper significance it would seem.
You been in Rikers awhile huh? LOL of course I will after your D, but I get to be dominant. ROFLMAO. You asked for that one. LOL. Gosh, I kill me.
Seriously, Belize I am so there. say when. we'll stay on Ambergris Caye , (oops I mean Ambergris Caye) I have some former students/friends there. Lots of english lasses to flirt with if your espanol is rusty. (Me llamo es piednegro. hmmm. no not quite right.) You bring clothes on back, leather flip flops, and beer money. I will bring scuba gear.
On a serious note.
Have you made a decision yet? YOU have to make the decision. If you want to save your M and DB, it cannot be with hesitation or doubt. The outcome is irrelevant. What she thinks and does has to be irrelevant.
It can be done. Do you want to? Did you read break free, yet?
Both very intelligent witty men yet searching for something bf can offer clearly. And likewise, I think bf swoons over them but being bf would never come out and verbalize it like they have
The swooning sets it all wrong. Intentional of course. LFL=PITA. I pity her H. Always having to be 'on' and such.
But who doesnt want to hang around and have fun with the witty, intelligent, verbally precocious, People that are here? Who cares they arent here.....Some of the subtleties that I see coming thru in posts here, My filters are on high alert. Why did she say that, what did she mean by that? Is that a test, or just circumstance. Its almost like a crash course. LMAO. Its so obvious.
the composite of the ideal man ahhh yes. the typical woman, never satisfied with what she has.....
Stig/BF/Chromo I believe they call that the trinity. Stig is obvious of course. Chromo, Ill free throw competition you for who gets to be the holy spirit and who gets to be yahweh. Actually since I have minions, I think you should be the one to go roving to and fro, frankly I have been for a long time and I need a 'rest day'.
I cant believe I am aiding and abetting this thread litter.
somewhat cryptic analysis of people's situations...made even more cryptic by your creative spelling and grammar choices.
My fingers simply cant keep up with my thoughts. It does become a sort of stream of conciousness, and I am always irritated when I see the extent of my keyboard virus infection, afterwards. I have had some success with this kind of communication in some other areas, so depending on the person, I use it or not. Depends on what I have time for, what I feel they need and what I feel like doing. Sometimes it fails horribly, as I use to many pronouns and articles in my sentences. Making is easy for the reader to get lost.
Do I get points for trying or lose points for trying and making things worse.
I am not too sure what you mean by cryptic,(encoded?) I assume, (bad blackfoot) that people here have some basics of phsyc already, from reading, even though Michelle and Dr. Harley are not very scholarly in their writings. Its one of the reasons I like them their lack of pretention and everyday, nomenclature.
Ever since I posted MY Sitch, I have stopped spell checking. I have phun with the word behavior, behaivior, behaviour, etc. there their and they're get out of hand some times. as does physc and teh. blech. I dont spell check because the way I have the paragraphs and sentence visually constructed is time consuming enough already.
My ideas are pretty redundant and while outside the box sometimes, (not PC) pretty basic, IMO. So I try not to talk to flowery, and could give a rats azz if I appear educated, or come off illiterate. This rubs some personality types wrong, but they need to work on pickiness anyways. LOL. I am always willing to shut my trap and leave anyones thread who asks me to do so.
that would explain why the nazis lost the war, I guess." I thut that two after I wrote it...
yes my x used to be annoyed by the reality of my specificity with words also. If I say put out, that does not mean throw, or leave. It means put.
is a reference to Triumph, the Insult Comic Dog, not to Eminem's song in which he references Triumph.)
a reference to a reference is not a reference? ARGGGHHHH. not you tooo. Sheesh.
HP I enjoyed both of your posts and appreciate the time you took posting to me previously. You helped me see things very clearly though it may not have been the way you were hoping.
Thank you.
I have more to say but want to wait for a couple more posters. If they wish to. I am seeking honesty, no matter what it is.
I don't post much, and not on other threads, but you wanted a male opinion so I thought I'd give you mine.
From what I've read of your posts I see you as a fairly selfish, narcisstic person. Harsh? Maybe, but the "if you want to play with someone elses toys I'm taking mine home" and running away mentality doesn't sound much like a grown up.
Your wife has been conflicted about her decisions and you have stonewalled her. Basically you've given her ultimatums like "my way or the highway" which don't allow for any type of grown up conversation or reconcilliation.
Her, to you, feable attempts at connection are spurned because she doesn't do it just your way. I see you measuring her based on your own internal values and it doesn't seem that you take her needs into account.
People make mistakes. Sometimes, really, really bad ones. Grown ups are able to accept that and move towards positive solutions.
Pride. I see a lot of pride in your responses. Pride has it's uses, but it also limits the your ability to share with others and for them to share with you.
You put up a front of bravado, but you still haven't gotten over her error. I see no forgiveness. Forgiveness means that you are willing to work through the difficulty on her terms as well as your own. What are her terms? Have you asked? What does she want/need to fill fulfilled in your relationship.
That's about it. I think you did a variation of kicking her out and running away and now that she has made a few attempts at reaching out to you I hear you saying to yourself "too little, too late". Your lack of ability to reconcile your differences doesn't bode well for future relationships. People make mistakes and no one is perfect. I see you seeking perfection in others at the same level that you seek it in yourself without understanding that a large portion of love is about accepting the differences and relishing them.
I don't recall off hand what we brought. I think MrsGGB might have made her famous fudge (the recipe is on the marshmallow fluff container) and brought that. 