Its a shame BF put a halt to our speaking of food. I was going to tell you that though chocolate may be to messy. Carmel is awesome for the job. You just heat it up a little then while it is warm pour it on/cover the item that is to be consumed then let it firm up a bit. Though it does take a little more pressure/effort to remove then chocolate with just the right amount of moisture it can be done with much less cleanup afterwards. Peanut butter to is a little more dense in texture then chocolate but not as water soluable so unless you choose to bath between rounds you may end up feeling like a reese's cup afterwards. Well since BF banished us before I had a chance to tell you this. I guess I will just have to catch up with you another time and let you know all about it.
BF doesn't call all the shots Chrissy! Back to chocolate and various sweet treats. Oh my! Caramel? Really? I would think the stickiness would be super messy but it "hardens" up. He He And I love Reese's peanut butter cups. You certainly have a lot of knowledge about this subject Chrissy, hmmm.....
TS, People react to self confidence. Period. End of story. If blackfoot's got it, he's going to attract other people with it.
If you don't have it, your wife will not be attracted to you.
Truly, it has little to do with macho-ness and women liking submission and more to do with the positive side of this sort of person.
Lemme ask you this: Are you normally this negative with your spouse?
I have to tell you that I am intrigued by your situation and would like to respond but your negativity towards other posters turns me off.
Like most women, I am attracted to self confident people who do not feel the need to put others down in order to make themselves look better, or to feed some inner beast in themselves that gets off on negativity.
I've tried being compassionate to you on your thread--and I have responded, so don't even go there--but you seem less interested in talking about your situation and more interested in attacking those posters whom you sense are like OM.
Ahhh forgot to ask do you like or have ever tried pumpkin butter? You can get it at Hickory Farms if no were else around you sells it. It is awesome. And that comes from someone who hates pumpkin. And you never know what kind of dilectable treats or uses you can make from it. I have a really good recipe for pumpkin whoopie pies if you would like it.
Chrome: I would like to just personally say that I am SOOOO attracted to BF that it would never end. I don't know what you gals are biatching about. He's the best. Stigmata: I guess what I'm trying to say is... BF, if you get that D will you marry me? LOL. At least YOU can look past all the sparkly diamonds in my ring offer for a much deeper significance it would seem.
Ok, so I could analyze this phenomenon all night. What is it about bf that makes MEN swoon? Or more specifically, Stigmata and Chromosphere. Hmmmm. Both very intelligent witty men yet searching for something bf can offer clearly. And likewise, I think bf swoons over them but being bf would never come out and verbalize it like they have. Interesting. Me thinks I'm on to something here....the composite of the ideal man. Could do a whole Frankenstein thing and see what "creation" I come up with. If only....
--Ah, yes, I somehow KNEW this was coming for us, Chromo...methinks it's more the impish boys within us urging on our school chum BF's repartee with the ladies on the board...many of whom I could find myself dropping to the chaise in a swoon over with my gaggle of attending maidens furiously fanning me off.
Why is this? Well, I find anyone who has it within themselves to put such hard work into their Rs (to the point of writing posts for months/years even) to be very admirable/attractive. Ms and Fs alike. I also find Cobra attractive, for instance. The guy is trying like hell to understand himself, his W, and keeping his family together. Very admirable. I can't even say I have the wherewithal to make 100 posts at this point before I am drawn away to something else in my life. My x basically shut down, mulled our R over silently in her head, then jettisoned my azz. What's it like to be actually INVOLVED in the R discussion?
As for Blackfoot observations. As I said, I would feel fraudulent making educated guesses on his qualities/flaws with so little information. For now, however, I will pull 2 distinct things from his more recent posts and comment...
1. He has stated his personality is rem. of 'Tristen' from Legends of the Fall...and this is from others who know him a hell of a lot better than I/we do.
2. He said his x detached and took off to another state to be on her own/self-sufficient etc. for the first time ever in her life.
The 9 year M would mean to me that she has spent most of her carefree 20s in an M.
Essentially, what I am only roughly hypothesizing here is that perhaps BF's x spent most of her time in the M finding herself staring at this type of extroverted 'Tristen' personality. Can see how it would be easy to do...losing yourself bit by bit each year in your "Rejoice in Thy youth" 20s.
Maybe she snapped awake, so to speak, and projected/mirrored BF's own charisma towards the OM...after all we're attracted to those qualities in others we'd like to see in ourselves. Ah, now do you see where I'm going with this? (My and Chromo's attraction, as you state, to BF)
I think BF's x may have realized she was heading to her 30s, her biological egg timer went off, and she felt she needed to find herself, her independence away from BF to see what it was like and to not have any regrets she missed out on exploring her selfish wants.
As I said, I take this with a grain of salt myself as I don't have enough info on the matter. But I do think when BF's x approaches 40 she will realize, in BF terminology, she needs to have "her head locked down."Now, as to your opinings on what makes BF attractive to me? From what I remember, I am an Myers-Briggs INTP. BF is obviously an extrovert. But we're sort of 2 sides to the same coin. I could never sit at a ship dock and serenade ladies coming off the ships. No way. Wish I could. Can't. And I doubt Chromo could either. He's out there in the world mixing with crowds and adventurous activities etc. it seems. I'm sitting back in the corner...observing; trying not to draw attention to myself.
So there you have it; part of it anyway. I also ID with his wit and his morality/integrity/honesty in an R. I ID with this because I think that's where I have failed and where he has failed in the R. We're morally self-righteous to an extreme and finding it nearly impossible to let our x's EA/PAs with OM go. "How in the hell could you betray the sanctity of "us" like this?!" Maybe it's the swan 'mate-for life' mentality that seems to be utterly devoid in the world today. I don't know.
OK, jeez, I need to get some work done. I may have further observations if/when I notice them in you, BF, since you asked for some male perspectives. Rest assured, I don't feel any sycophantism towards you,if it may appear to others that way, so I'm not afraid of stinging you with unpleasant observations if that's if/when they come across my scope.
-Stigmata-
PS - Knock it off with the chocolate, ladies. I'm alone here and still in love with a woman who could care less about me in the same way. Grr, frustration, grrr (now swooning over Chromo, heh).
The difference between a warrior and an ordinary man is the warrior views everything as a challenge; the ordinary man views everything as either a blessing or a curse.
-Yaqui shaman Don Juan-
...and that holds 2x true for nice guy wussies, DJ
A visionary? Are you saying you don't actual practice this "love of sweets" approach? Interesting. Not that I have done much myself H and I have never been that adventurous in the bedroom. OM liked to do naughty things with ice cubes though I think I need to start building some "H and I" sexual adventures. He'd probably be up for it if I brought it up but there we go again...Why can't he initiate these things? Plus the last month or so has been hit and miss. Some weeks we're good, other weeks we don't even touch each other. Enough about that. Back to the treats! Ooohh...pumpkin butter. ....but, what do you do with it...really... Pumpkin whoopie pies?! Yes, I would like the recipe. H loves pumpkin too. Just noticed they have a Pumpkin Latte at Starbucks. May have to try that soon before they move on to some minty Christmas concoction. Mint and chocolate don't mix people!!
Ditto Chrissy. Someone else said it here before, we are each others support group. While we are sometimes harsh with each other, we also watch each others backs. Just like a big family.
(((((((SSM BOARD))))))))
"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"
Yes visionary does equal just my vivid imagination alot. My H like yours seems to lack it. He is more the conformed sex type.
think I need to start building some "H and I" sexual adventures. He'd probably be up for it if I brought it up but there we go again...Why can't he initiate these things?
That is me to a tee! Sometimes my zany side just overtakes it all. But even then if he does something it is a exact repeat. BLAH BLAH boring. Like watching the same movie daily for 15 years. Even if I change the channel and H likes the new show. Tomorrow he is watching that old movie again. And the thought of him picking up the remote and changing the channels seems impossible for him.
But I had a adventurous life before him. Which allows me some fond memories of a time when sex was spicey. And I was not the only one through spice in the blend.
Pumpkin butter is great on english muffins! I am going to use it in some cookies I make for the holidays. I will post the recipe on my thread later tonight when I get back from picking up my son.
PS - Knock it off with the chocolate, ladies. I'm alone here and still in love with a woman who could care less about me in the same way. Grr, frustration, grrr (now swooning over Chromo, heh).
Sorry did not mean to be messing with your head We were just talking about being hungry and some good foods to feast on!
Well, your thread was certainly hijacked. We, "your minions" seem to carry on just fine in your absence. Whoever said that, one comment - Puh-leez!
Karen
PS All the food talk got me thinking about what to take with H and for snack food on our WWME weekend. H would make a very nice "serving utensil" for a variety of things.....
H and I have never been that adventurous in the bedroom. OM liked to do naughty things with ice cubes though 