So who are these "minions" that bf has? I must have missed that thread Oooohhhh...how did I miss that juicy thread. I even get a shout out from bf in there Well, TSinA, that was quite an attack I'd say. Why so angry? Well, the psychoanalyst in me sees clear projection of your feelings for OM onto BF. Both macho guys, both a threat to your R in a sense. Career military man? hmm.. Quite manly, aggressive, assertive, dominant. And thus, very attractive. Sounds like he had lots of other qualitites that were not so attractive however, admitting to using your W and all. Not nice! So, ok, the A happened and you obviously want to work things out. You also still have lots of bitterness and resentment. Who could blame you. My H left me out of the blue a year ago last October. He's back now. Still lots of garbage to wade through though. That's life. You make the best with what you've got or move on. It ain't rocket science. A plus B doesn't always equal C. Too many emotional complications, and such. The heart and the mind are usually on different pages kwim? Ok, I'm turning into bf with this stream of consciousness. I am sorry for what you are going through. I can get bitter just as easy as the next person so I understand your attitude. If you don't laugh you cry and all that stuff. Keep posting and maybe you can at least gain some support if not a changes you want to be seeing in the M. So IS your W just as committed as you to the M? Do you have doubts about her still seeing/talking to OM?
